Noah Herrin preaches from Ephesians 5 about marriage, arguing that Scripture calls believers to both mutual submission to Christ and distinct, complementary roles in marriage. He warns that culture has given people a "watered down" view of Scripture and marriage, so he unpacks what Paul means when he tells wives to submit and husbands to love sacrificially. Herrin defines submission as "making their deal bigger than our deal" and frames it as an invitation to a husband to lead, not a statement of inferiority or blanket submission to all men. He gives practical steps for wives (encourage his leadership, be a teammate, give space) and husbands (apologize first, make her feel valued daily, pray for your wife), closes with a call to run the marriage race together, and offers a brief gospel invitation.
“So many people have become familiar with the watered down version of the word of God and the watered down version of marriage...” · Noah Herrin
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Wives: intentionally encourage your husband's leadership, strategize together regularly, and ask how you can help him lead well. Husbands: lead with sacrificial service, apologize first when conflict arises, make your wife feel loved daily, and pray for her consistently. Treat marriage as a joint race - plan, reset, and run it together.
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